I don’t follow sports – especially politics – but I do like the movies. Personally, I see the entire newspaper as a giant sports report. We have the financial sports, geo-political sports, who out-lived whom sports, oh, and yeah, sports sports. While I do admire solo sports – I think solo sports represent the honing of one’s mettle and soul towards the aim of being the best you can possibly be, as opposed to competitive sports where the goal is to be named the best in the world as proved by the whopping of others. You can be the best in the world yet not achieve the best you can be. I believe solo sports to be a growth path and competitive sports to being a narcissistic beauty pageant. I am an avid avoider of competitive sports. I must say that the current election cycle is the dark winter of my discontent. My leanings are what they are – and are largely irrelevant to the “Olympic semi-finals” with which we are now bombarded. The conflation of so many other issues come into this Herculean pre-election sporting competition; that they distort a clear view of the character of the speakers. Continue reading
Category Archives: Mental Health
FEAR OF LEAVING YOUR COMFORT ZONE – GREAT SHIPS ARE SAFEST IN PORT YET GRANDEST AT SEA
Ah Synchronicity! Of late I have had a number of people I work with dealing with the fear of leaving their comfort zone and reaching for their dreams. Upon reflection, it seems to me that all of life is leaving one comfort zone for newer and stranger adventures. It starts with that quintessential leaving of our first comfort zone: the womb. Continue reading
THE 411 ON A REAL 911, IMO – OR HAVING A REAL LIFE AND BEATING A CELL PHONE ADDICTION
Cell phone addiction is a problem that began as a solution. You felt bored or lonely – you reached for the phone. You saw a great sunset – you reached for your phone. You reached for your phone – you reached for your phone – and now you reach for your phone like a true addict. Continue reading
SEXLESS MARRIAGE – WHERE’S WALDO
I’ve worked with many long-term couples in sexless marriages. They didn’t start that way. We are all fairly clear that romance starts with lust. It takes a crowbar to make it out of the bedroom. Earlier in marriages it is harder to get out of bed than to get in it. And well it should be. In more mature marriages (5-7 or more years) it is harder get in bed. That goes hand in hand with evolution. Mother Nature cares more about reproduction that she cares about our feelings. In fact, she is quite happy to have us broaden the haploid bank by taking other lovers. It has been hypothesized that the 7 year itch is 7 years because that is how long it takes to get pregnant and to be protected while being an 8 – month, pregnant, slow waddling tiger-food-mom to be. And it takes about 7 years from conception for the fetus to become a child who can and start to contribute to its tribe. After that Mother Nature’s risk/reward assessment favors spreading the genes.
SEXLESS MARRIAGE – WHERE’S WALDO
I’ve worked with many long-term couples in sexless marriages. They didn’t start that way. We are all fairly clear that romance starts with lust. It takes a crowbar to make it out of the bedroom. Earlier in marriages it is harder to get out of bed than to get in it. And well it should be. In more mature marriages (5-7 or more years) it is harder get in bed. That goes hand in hand with evolution. Mother Nature cares more about reproduction that she cares about our feelings. In fact, she is quite happy to have us broaden the haploid bank by taking other lovers. It has been hypothesized that the 7 year itch is 7 years because that is how long it takes to get pregnant and to be protected while being an 8 – month, pregnant, slow waddling tiger-food-mom to be. And it takes about 7 years from conception for the fetus to become a child who can and start to contribute to its tribe. After that Mother Nature’s risk/reward assessment favors spreading the genes.
AGING WELL – HOW OLD WOULD YOU FEEL IF YOU DIDN’T KNOW YOUR AGE?
I am often asked about aging well. I answer with a question: ” How old would you feel if you didn’t know your age?” After some preamble, I ususally then hear something along the line, “it’s all in your mind, right?” Much as we would like to believe that aging is in your mind – it is just not so. The leading cause of death is …. birth.
NARCISSIM GONE WRONG – MORE IS NOT ENOUGH
There is no question that narcissism has made many great men and women in many different fields. However, recently many have asked me about narcissism gone wrong. This post is about that.
OMG! IT’S NOW SO COMMON, FEAR OF MISSING OUT IS NOW KNOWN BY ITS ACRONYM: FoMO
Boy, if there ever was a seductive siren it is the Fear of Missing Out (FoMO.) It has been around since earliest times. FoMO has had many iterations over the centuries. The poorer hunters got the lesser cuts of the catch; and the lesser choice in women. Later, in the 1950s, it became “keeping up with the Jones’s.” Now it has become 1500 friends (you’ve never met – yet feel you must answer every text, post, instagram, etc., and always be (for God’s sake) at least equal.
BRUCE JENNER, MY HAT’S OFF TO YOU!
Bruce Jenner, my hat is most definitely off to you. Last night while my friend was winning an Emmy (congrats David Doyle – you deserve it not only as a producer but as a human being – proud of you!), I was watching the Bruce Jenner interview. It was a very interesting story. 16 hours later I find I feel for him on two counts. The first is compassion for his suffering the weight of a life lead dealing with the issues that are part and parcel of realizing that you are living with being born in the wrong sexed body. Second, I was concerned for him having to “come out” in Macy’s window.
GERMANWINGS AND PSYCHOSIS
I have waited for a bit before publishing a blog entry on Germanwings. It was my feeling that between my Vimeo video (see the Vimeo link in the media and consulting tab on this website) and my How to Survive a Secondhand Disaster (in this blog section); I felt I had pretty much covered it. Moreover it was my sense that the co-pilot must have been psychotic. I will follow up on that point in a moment.
